Dealing with narcissists can be physically and mentally exhausting. The arrogant attitude leads them to think themselves better than others, who need attention and admiration all the time. They do not seem to have empathy for anyone. Does someone you know have these characteristics?
Behind the "all mine" attitude and "I can do everything," there are a series of problems due to conflictive relationships. Although people with narcissistic personality disorder have an inflated sense of their importance and a deep need for admiration, they also have fragile self-esteem.
Keys to identifying a narcissist
To be diagnosed with narcissistic personality syndrome, a person must meet at least 4 of the following aspects: grandiosity complex, unlimited success fantasies, a conviction of being special and unique, need to be unconditionally admired, feeling of privilege, exploitation of others to achieve their goals, lack of empathy, envy, arrogance, and pride.
Dealing with such a person is not pleasant, especially if it is your boss, partner, father, or someone in your family. Generally, they are given privileges by society to behave even more arrogant for the simple fact of being a man.
Tips for dealing with a narcissist
Having a close relationship or a simple casual conversation with a narcissist can become exhausting - quite a martyrdom. Therefore, here are some tips in case you ever come across a narcissist:
1. Take a deep breath
Sanity has to fit into one of the two parts, so try to be objective, look at them, and treat them for what they are: arrogant guys. Sometimes ignoring a narcissist is better than getting into an endless argument because he will never accept that he is wrong. Ask yourself a question: is it worth getting into a conversation with this person? Do not forget to put your mental well-being first.
2. Do not put yourself aside to attend to their needs
Whether a family member, friend, or sentimental partner, do not be confused by their attitude. Although it could cause an attraction effect on many people because of how they relate to you, do not let their words affect you. Above all, do not allow everything to revolve around their needs.
3. Set clear boundaries
Be very careful. If you feel like you''ve done things that you didn''t want to, chances are you''re being manipulated. Try to set clear limits in your relationship with a narcissistic person, and if necessary, break any ties with those people. Manipulation is one of the worst things our friends, family, or partners can do to us. Don''t let them confuse you, and don''t do anything you don''t want to.
4. Remember that you are not a rehabilitation center
Always keep in mind that, as part of the manipulation, they will want to make you carry all their problems; remember that saving them is not your problem. If you''re going to help, recommend that he attend therapy with a specialist. No form of abuse is justifiable; don''t allow narcissistic people to manipulate and hurt you. Break the silence, and walk away if necessary. Remember: your emotional well-being comes first.
Traducción: Valentina K. Yanes